dating sites

Ok, so earlier I wrote this big, long winded post about the word Queer, however, I have decided to think about that one before I post it, IF i post it...

but, I do have something I want to talk about almost as much as that...

Yup... you guessed it.... dating sites.

I cannot be the only one who has issues with these sites.  Ok, ya, I wouldnt have issues with them if I wasn't on them, that said, I have profiles on lots, most of the time, doesn't mean I am looking for dates, it just means that I like to type/chat with anonymous people somewhere other than in my house.... sometimes I make some GREAT friends out of the deal and sometimes I am left shaking my head.  A friend of mine recently met someone off of one of these sites... that person turned out CRAZY.... so far, I have been ok in that book... but I am always aware of the risk.  that said... my issues is not so much the people who contact you... actually, without me initiating it with words, I wouldn't ever hear from anyone....  I don't know, perhaps I am intimidating, I don't think so, but I am not looking at me objectively.... but i digress....

Now, what is particularly irritating to me on these sites is the myriad of things you have to answer in order to get matched up with people.... (there's more than just this)... i mean, I have answered THOUSANDS of questions to better equip some weird program in matching me up with some random person based on a percentage of "compatibility".... this... this is interesting, I will swear left right and center that just because my favorite ice cream is vanilla and I like to take my socks off under the sheets (long story) doesn't mean that Sarah, who also LOVES vanilla ice cream and only has sheets to catch her socks will be a good match for me.  According to at least one site, my ex and I were 82% perfect match for a forever relationship.... guess what??!??!?!?!  WRONG?!?!  We can't even be in the same room... so I guess that 18% is like a fricken mountain or something..... i mean there's 82% more water in the ocean.... but see how hard it is for the ocean to get over the rockies.... just sayin....

Don't get me wrong, I have met, and even married someone I met online, though not through a dating site... and the last man I was with I also met online, so something obviously works 82% of the time *grin*... but.... in a world that is FULL of sites, places where people virtually hang out and get to know virtual sides of everyone and everyone hides behind a keyboard, why is it none of these "matches" match me?  It certainly isn't that these sites don't SAY we are matched.... and it isn't like meeting people in public works so well... .first off, as a lesbian, try going out and just randomly asking some woman who happens to be beautiful if she likes women... TALK ABOUT HARROWING... I have trouble enough talking to women who i KNOW love women...

So OK, I hide, like others, behind the anonymity of a keyboard and get memberships on all these sites... a myriad of women are there for my choosing, the sites send me potential matches weekly (i should NEVER have trouble getting a date according to these sites)  I have wonderful pictures depicting me doing amazing things (laughing, in the ocean with my hair crazy, walking with my kids, making funny faces... contemplative, sexy look, so on and so forth) in amazing sittuations (Cuba, riding a bike, dancing) and yet no one on these damn sites talks to me.... I mean COME ON!!!  I am a pretty cool chick, if I do say so myself... and I am friendly.  I'm not like repulsive looking.... and yet, these sites, with all their matches do nothing to improve my seeing/meeting ratio...

what's worse than that.... these sites TELL YOU who looked at your profile.... and then decided NOT to talk to you.... WTF?????  Ok... so now I know that I have multiple memberships on dating sites.... for various things... I'm not trying to find the PERFECT match, but hey, getting to know some people would be nice.... and noone speaks to me, but LOTS OF people are matches to me, looked at me and said.... "meh, nah"??????  seriously???

Maybe I should just throw in the bag....