Shut the closet door

Ok, so noone will really be surprised that I am writing about this... and well, if you are... that's silly.  I LOVE to spread my opinion like peanut butter..... and simply disregard allergies....

Recently Ms. Jodi Foster "came out" ish... on the Golden Globes....  and well.... this has caused MASSIVE problems... as you can see on the link... people are... once again... throwing their 2 cents worth in

But I am stuck on this... I love Jodi Foster as much as the next girl loving girl... as I love Queen Latifah... who may OR MAY NOT be gay.... but... since when is THEIR sexual preference MY business?  Since when do I have the RIGHT to know about their sex lives?  Fact is... Johnny Depp, may OR MAY NOT be gay... and you know what?  I don't know... I don't know because it isn't MY business....

What kind of world do we live in that because someone makes good movies, or sings well, that automatically decides that they have no right to privacy?  A famous athlete... again... their business, not ours.... and they should be able to decide who they tell and we should probably mind our own business.

See, I have long thought about this, and thought along these lines... Look at poor Britney Spears... not a lesbian no... but her ENTIRE LIFE is on display CONSTANTLY and this theory that because you want to sing or be in a movie you are the property of the masses is just bullshit.  When Britney Spears LOST HER SHIT.... people talked about that all the time... I did not... there was some good and some bad publicity based on her losing it.... now don't get me wrong... she DEFINITELY lost the plot... but instead of judging her I simply put myself in her shoes.... she has been on stage, in movies and films since she was a little kid.... and don't all little girls at SOME POINT want to be a movie star or a Pop singer???  *let me qualify... LOTS OF, not necessarily ALL little girls.... (fuck this politically correct thing)... so does that mean that when our little girls say "mommy, I want to be a movie star" we should be sitting them down and explaining to them that from the moment they step on stage till they DIE.... their lives are PUBLIC FODDER????  That they are no longer allowed to pick their friends based on friendship, but based on the level of positive feedback on some bloody blogger's site? 

I will tell you straight out, right this minute, were I more famous than I am (I get recognized at Safeway and in public bathrooms... it's GREAT... but I digress) and the Paparazzi starts shooting pictures of me in everything that I do... I'm going to make it worth their while.. and NOTHING I do will be based on reality...  because, we as the public are jerks.... we are selfish, self centered and looky-loos.... let's not deny it... When you are in the cash line at the grocery store, do you read the headlines on the magazines?  Do YOU try to figure out who gained X amount of pounds?  Do you have Entertainment weekly on your PVR?  Have you read the Star/Globe/Personal invasion newspapers???  How much does Kirstie Alley weigh?  Who's panties or lack there of are you looking for???

Now put yourself in THEIR shoes?  Think about it... the other day I slept in... I put a toque over my messy hair, wore sweatpants and a shirt with a mark on it to work... and didn't have a chance to shower... Make up?!?!?!  REALLY?!?!?!?!?  I had to pee so bad the other day, I did it... I pulled over next to a bush and I did so.... my kid pissed me off in public and yea... I not only shouted at him but I'm pretty sure I called him a fucker too....   sometimes I have to put groceries back b/c I am broke and when I was a kid, I stole a pair of socks and a pack of pencil crayons from Army and Navy and my whole family got caught.... yup... and no one was there to take my picture.... because i don't matter... because I am not in movies...

But I think what people don't take into consideration is the fact that these celebrities... yea, ok, they are GREAT at what they do, but they don't' BELONG to us.... We don't have the RIGHT to know their everything... and were we in their shoes, I am sure that we would all agree.... Recently a friend of mine who is in the closet at her own request at work was outed by a family member... and I talked to her right afterwards... Now, I pointed out that the family member probably didn't think about any damage that they might be doing.... but as my friend pointed out... it wasn't her FAMILY'S place to out her... yet because Jodi Foster denied being gay for her own reasons, in the past, and came out to who she wanted WHEN she wanted people are going to get on her case?  WHY???    Don't get me wrong, I am as thankful as the next GBLTQ2S person for the public outing of Ellen (who chose to do so on her OWN TERMS) and other gay and lesbian actors... but I also respect their right to keep their private life PRIVATE... just like I have the right... Just like my friend had the right.... because it is THEIR business... it isn't mine.  Just because I watched a movie with Jodi Foster or listen to MIKA or saw sports that Wade Davis played in does NOT give me the right to see into their homes and bedrooms.

I say cool beans to Ms. Foster... I say COOL to MIKA for coming out and hey Mr. Davis... well done... however.... I also want to extend to all of you my support in having your private life be as private as mine is.... I don't care if you gained or lost weight... I don't give a damn if you aren't wearing make up, if you forgot your panties... it MAY be breezy up there.... if you are gay... cool... unless you are interested in me.. I don't care anymore than you care that I am gay (ok, if Queen Latifah is gay, i CARE... straight up.... humina humina... that's a whole different blog though) BUT..... I want to let you know... i recognize that under the make up, inside the panties, no matter who you are sleeping with... you are a human being too, and being famous doesn't mean that I think your shit is my business.